By Monique MacKinnon, Creativity Expert & Hand Analyst, Energetic Evolution
Are you neglecting this key success factor? Noticing and reflecting on the significance of your “soul siblings”? You know, the soul sisters and brothers that cross your path?
In fact, you may be familiar with the popular expression: “People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.” When taken from a literal perspective, this statement is only partly accurate. Why? - Because “figuring out” often keeps you stuck in the mental realm. And since “knowing” why people come into your life is a spiritual function, you need to align yourself to that “space”. How? - By “being” your whole spiritual self: your light and shadow (undesirable, unwanted and rejected parts of your) self and all.
To illustrate this point, here’s a practical example taken from The Millionaire Matchmaker TV show. A female client who was heavily masculine in her behaviors learned through the show the importance of reconnecting to her feminine self. As such, not only did her date on the Millionaire Matchmaker go very well. Meeting the Master Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger served as the catalyst that reignited her relationship with her “ex”. In this case, the show taught her to own and embrace her repressed feminine qualities. Specifically, she learned that the need to “always be in control” wasn’t going to attract her soul mate. So, she allowed herself to enjoy having her date organize and treat her on the date. In this simple but powerful example, Patti served as this Millionaire Matchmaker client soul sister “for a reason”.
WalkYourSoul Nudge: Take a look at the people you have met in the past three months, who had a powerful effect on you… good or bad. Write their names down on a piece of paper. Then ask yourself this: “Why did I meet them? What was their purpose?” To teach you to become a better communicator, friend, lover, parent or coach (insert your profession here)? To show you it’s finally time for you to think about and take care of yourself? To tell you to have more fun in life? To befriend you? As soul siblings, how are they helping you to further grow your soul, so that life takes on more meaning for, and becomes that much richer to you?
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By Richard Francis, Right People, Right Businesses, Right Reasons, Owner at Boardroom Breakthrough
“Do one thing every day that scares you” (Eleanor Roosevelt). Or if that’s too unpalatable – just ‘tweak for value’. Take the elements of what you already know and are already doing and change them about a bit. Bolt-on something related and add-in more flavor.
Recently – for the Smart Boardroom service – I saw a program on British TV about a go-kart track struggling in the economic downturn. Their corporate business (which was most of their income) was in the tank. No-one wants to be seen to party in corporations in the UK right now – they’re all under far too much scrutiny – both externally in the media and internally with their senior management. I saw this program and was driving past it one day. (Of all the go-kart tracks in Great Britain, this one is under 5 miles from my front door.) I met the owner who’d been on TV and suggested that we investigate combining my Smart Boardroom service, where people have to run around a failing ‘virtual company’ with a series of team building challenges on the go-karts. Presto – exit the ‘corporate jolly’ and enter ‘the team building challenge that develops leadership and management skilling’. Of course, the winners get to do some go-karting, but no-one can hurl rocks at them anymore right?
One thing to remember about ‘tweaking’ is combine it with ‘timing’. At a recent convention, I met a man who had in 1999 invented and marketed a fabulous online and offline picture sharing package on a PC. It was brilliant and reasonably priced. People could share (and find) photos on the internet with it. Sadly – in the UK in 1999 – not many people had PC’s connected to the internet, and still more of them were reluctant to give up film cameras. Digital was nowhere as cheap, as good quality, or available as it is now. The product bombed. A few years later, a free service called ‘Flickr’ did exactly the same job with a slightly different model. It was sold not so long ago for millions of dollars.
Tweaking, Timing, Testing and Refining
Also, use the tools that can make you look bigger than you are. A lot of fluff has been made of social media tools. But whilst I abhor most of these ‘destiny changing programs’ – some of which are re-packaged common sense with a large price ticket on them – there are some things you really can do to ‘punch above your weight’. Top of the heap is 1) Learn the tools – without doing that you are not going to get anywhere. Twitter, Facebook, Blogging on Wordpress are not excessively complicated and they are free. 2) Use them, and put out a LONG TAIL of user-generated content. U.G.C will be your differentiator in the years to come.
It doesn’t matter if your website blog is targeted by loonies and spammers – keep blogging! Use meta-tags so that the search engines can find it, again and again. Remember the web is BARELY out of NAPPIES – it’s hardly more than 5000 days old. If you REALLY want to know why this is so phenomenally important, search for ‘Kevin Kelly’ on Google and go listen to his talks on TED.com. In brief, by 2040, the web will have more collective ‘artificial intelligence and computing power’ than the WHOLE OF HUMANITY. Information will be ubiquitous – so I’d suggest you let go of hoarding your knowledge and rationing it out – and GET SEEN. Trust me, you’ll receive more than you give. IQ + EQ + SQ = Business prosperity.
So in summary, lay on a spread. Try some new ingredients – or at least fiddle about with those you have – and then be prepared to change your recipes. If we didn’t do that – we’d still be eating raw meat off the end of a spear!
Richard Francis has spent over two decades selling, marketing, building channels and relationships with people to forge significant and sustainable results. He uses this knowledge to help others find their breakthrough formulas to success. Richard is a lifelong devotee of crafting and refining knowledge and is always looking for useful connections that allow better application of learning into action. He has worked for and with many companies, including Intel, Hewlett-Packard and Sony. He has also managed a small but complex overseas property business. So, he has empathy with entrepreneurs at all levels of business – and not just in boardrooms but also at all levels right down to the shop floor. Richard likes to see the right people in the right businesses for the right reasons. This generally tends to make for better results and happier people driving them. To receive a free copy of You don’t need three years in catering college to cook good food! Learn about IQ, EQ, SQ and Other Key Ingredients for Business Success (in e-book format), visit http://boardroombreakthrough.com/lets-talk/come-on-board/ (Available for free until Friday, November 5th, 2010.)
By Snowden McFall, author of Stress Express! 15 Instant Stress Relievers
The number of stressed Canadians increased 30% in 2009, according to the Canadian Mental Health Association. Large numbers of Canadian workers feel they have no control of their lives with the economic recession, unemployment and lack of financial security. The study by Desjardins Financial Security found that 1/3 of people surveyed have headaches and anxiety as well as physical tension and sleepless nights.1
Careerbuilder.com says that 78% of American workers feel burned out. One third of Americans say they’re living with extreme stress.2 The American Psychological Association says stress costs industry $300 billion a year in absences, medical costs, lost productivity and turnover. Worldwide data is equally staggering: UK, 4 billion pounds, Australia, $14.81 billion, Canada, $12 billion, annually. That’s billions of dollars each year in each economy and millions of people who are under stress!
As an entrepreneur, you are especially prone to burnout. From worry about cash flow and payroll to new business and rising costs, entrepreneurs are especially challenged at this time and getting even less sleep. Thirteen percent of those polled by Fortune Small Business reported having trouble getting to sleep every night.
What Can You Do To Combat Stress?
1. Take Vacations. Strategic Coach Dan Sullivan discovered that when his clients doubled their vacation days, they doubled their income.3 Boston College determined that for women aged 45 to 64, two weeks of vacation cut their incidence of heart attack in half.3 Expedia found most people feel rejuvenated after vacation, and are more productive and more satisfied with their marriages.
2. Get More Sleep. The World Health Organization is considering labeling less than 7 hours a night a carcinogen: a cancer-causing agent. Less than 7 hours means you are three times more susceptible to colds and flu. You are functioning at a cognitive disadvantage. The solution: plan for a good night’s sleep. Go to bed earlier, do not check email before bed, do not watch TV in bed. Make your bedroom a sanctuary for sleeping, making love and resting: no phones, computers, or beepers.
3. Complete what you start. Incompletions drain large amounts of energy and create stress. Each incompletion is a broken agreement, and it saps a little bit of energy. With enough incompletes, you feel like a failure. One solution is to record your successes daily. Whether your action was to close a million dollar account or make the bed, if you set out to do it and finished it, to your brain, those are equal successes. Every time you complete a project, new energy is released to start new projects and you create a pattern of successful accomplishment.
4. Cultivate Optimism. Optimists live 7 years longer than pessimists, have better lung function and are far less likely to die young or from cancer, according to the US NIH and Yale University. It also helps your success as an entrepreneur. Dr. Martin Sullivan of the University of Pennsylvania interviewed 350,000 executives and learned that the top 10% performers are all optimists! So if you want greater success, achievement, and profit in your business, become a more positive thinker. As an entrepreneur, you have the chance to impact lives, add value to your customers, and create a good livelihood for you and your employees. But only if you take care of yourself and manage your stress.
1. Stress levels up in Canada, mental health association warns, CBC news, http://www.cbc.ca/canada/manitoba/story/2009/05/04/mb-mental-health.html
2.“Stress in US Rises, Causes Health Problems,” The Scoop, The Meeting Professional, March 2008, p.442.
3. Brown, Sarah, “Clean Break,” Vogue, June 2003
By Mary Dee Freeman, Professional Success Coach
One of my favorite movie scenes is from A League of their Own. I don’t want to give it away if you haven’t seen the movie, but there’s this scene with Gina Davis and Tom Hanks. She’s leaving and he’s trying to convince her to stay.
She said, “It just got too hard.”
Tom Hanks said, “It’s supposed to be hard. The hard is what makes it great.”
I get Goosebumps just thinking about it. What a great line! All the best things in life are the most difficult to get. The very fact that it’s hard is what makes it special. We all need to remember that.
For Davis’ character, the problem wasn’t baseball, but her relationships. She knew exactly what to do on the field because she had a defined role. Off the field, she was a friend, a wife, a teammate, and a sister. Things got messier then. Her roles weren’t as defined and sometimes even contradicted each other.
I think everyone struggles with that to some extent. Everyone has their own roles to fill: parents and children, coworkers, employers and employees, friends and family members. There are all of these different hats that you have to wear and sometimes it’s hard not only to figure out which one to put on, but what to do once it’s there. Sometimes it seems like everyone wants something. It’s like being pulled in every direction at once.
It’s hard to know when to say no and when to say yes. So, you keep saying, “yes, sure, I can do that.” Even when you know you can’t. Eventually, you’re doing so much that you can’t keep up. The result is you’re running around like a crazy person, completely stressed out and not getting anything done. The few things you do get done aren’t done well because you were rushing so you could get on to the next thing. Everything suffers.
I used to do this all the time when I was a teacher. At one point, I was sponsor to three clubs, on three committees, taking classes for my master’s degree and working an extra part time job. Did I mention that I was teaching 5 full high school classes at the time?
I know what I’m talking about. To be honest, I wasn’t doing any of these things effectively. I did them because I didn’t know how to say no. Truthfully, I still struggle with it. It’s not easy. Just the other day, my boyfriend asked me to do him a favor. I had a busy day planned, but I didn’t want to disappoint him so I did it… seething with resentment the entire time.
I was so angry with him. I kept thinking, “Why do I have to do this for him? Why can’t he do it? He doesn’t need it done today… Why is he making me do this?” You get the idea. I had this inner tirade going on in my mind. Then, it came to me. He didn’t make me do anything. I could have said no. Duh!!!!
I’m a little embarrassed because I teach this, but I had to share it. I couldn’t let this opportunity go to waste. Learning to say no and own your time is one of those really hard lessons that you have to learn over and over again. I had to re-learn the lesson and here it is…
1. Get over it and myself. The world isn’t going to come to an end if I say no. I am not that important.
2. I set my boundary and told him how it bothered me. I also told him that I might say no or not today the next time. (By the way, I only recommend you explain yourself like this with people who are close to you. You don’t have to explain yourself to coworkers.)
3. Ironically, he didn’t really care. While he wanted the errand run, he said it could have waited a day.
That’s the funny thing about saying no. Most of the time, the people asking aren’t nearly as invested as we are. If we say no, they’ll find another way to get it done. It will be inconvenient for them, but not nearly as inconvenient as it will be for you when you say yes.
Mary Dee Freeman is a Professional Success Coach with WOW - Why Ours Works. If you like what you read, follow the link to her website and sign up for her newsletter: www.whyoursworks.com
By Matthew Stewart, Financial Education Expert
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.” ~Henry Ford
Throughout the past few years in business and in networking I’ve noticed more and more that most people are not satisfied with their current job or career. I’ve also seen this increasing trend: Many people contemplating and exploring starting their own business. These people are from all different walks of life and all have an interesting story to tell. Their reasons for wanting to be in business for themselves are many and varied. A few of the main ‘Why’s’ that I hear are… to: make more money, have more time and freedom (including a flexible schedule), leave their current boss, and follow their passions.
Now when it comes to building a successful business, there are 3 Keys to Failing Forward. This is especially important in these fast-changing times we now find ourselves living in. Either we learn to adapt to the changes or we might find ourselves out of business. As entrepreneurs the first rule in business is to stay in business. However the statistics about new business start up and failure rates are still alarmingly staggering:
The benefits of entrepreneurship and small business are undeniable for both the owner and the economy. In reality, as astounding as the statistics are for small business success, the statistics for failure are equally daunting. A common statistic repeated when an aspiring entrepreneur seeks advice from friends or family is “Nine out of ten new businesses fail within the first year.”1
Although the statistics seem to show the odds are stacked against us business owners, there is hope and that brings me to the 3 keys.
1. Have a detailed game plan.
2. Most people take many weeks or sometimes months to plan their next vacation or to plan home renovations. Why not take at least a few hours or a few days to plan out your vision for what you want your life and our business to look like 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years, 25 years and 50 years from now. I think the main reason why most of us do not do this is because it can be a very daunting task. A question I always ask people is “how do you get to your desired destination? The answer is one step at a time!” The same applies here for your vision/business plan. Often I find it is easiest to start at the end of one’s life and work one’s way backwards. So ask yourself, “What do I want my life and business to look like 50 (or even just 5 to 10) years from now?” Then you can start to determine what you need to accomplish this year, this month, this week and most importantly today! Now you have the framework to get started. Small habits performed each day will eventually lead to amazing results.
3. It is all about having a powerful attitude about Failure. Most people hear the word failure and cringe or it brings to mind a time when they experienced failure. However, the most successful people seem to have a very different response to failure. How does the word Failure make you feel? Switch your emotional response to a more positive one that serves instead of hurts you. It is so important for us to see failure for what it really is: an opportunity to improve. One of Neuro-inguistic programming (NLP) basic suppositions is “There is no Failure, but only feedback".2 Anytime I face a setback, I remind myself that I never see failure as failure but rather as an opportunity for me to learn, grow and further develop my skills.
Overcoming FEAR - The most accurate description of FEAR is:
F = False
E = Evidence
A = Appearing
R = Real
When I really learned and internalized this important key, it transformed my business. Identify first what fear is holding you back from getting the results you truly want? Is it fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection, fear of criticism, fear of the unknown or fear of not having the security of a job? Whatever it might be. Once you identify it, then you can begin to work towards overcoming it.
Matthew Stewart, Financial Education Expert, is dedicated to teaching people (like you!) the secrets of how to put money back into your pockets that the financial institutions don’t want you to know. To schedule your complimentary Money Back Into Your Pockets visit (20-30 mins), contact Matthew directly at 613-858-6999 or firstname.lastname@example.org
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